The Observing and Masternig of your emotions

This is a BIG one!

How do you stay in control of your emotions, rather than letting your emotions control you?

Emotions are important, they can help you guide your life. If you know how to use them and if you use them correctly.
If not, they run your life for you, without you even knowing or having a real say in the matter. This is what we want to avoid. It is important to be in charge, and to get to know your emotions.

Emotions change your physiological state: your breathing, your posture and your thinking; it changes your body chemistry - in other words, it changes you!

Emotions dictate your day-today-life. As you react to your surrounding; through anchored cues, which pull an emotion to the forefront, and run the show for you.

Lets see what the dictionary  says about it:

emotion

1. A mental state that arises spontaneously rather than through conscious effort and is often accompanied by physiological changes; a feeling: the emotions of joy, sorrow, reverence, hate, and love.
2. A state of mental agitation or disturbance: spoke unsteadily in a voice that betrayed his emotion.
3. The part of the consciousness that involves feeling; sensibility: 

So,

How do you master your emotions then?

It has to start with learning to observe yourself - recognizing when you are in different emotional states, and how your body and thoughts are affected by it - posture, facial expression, breathing, focus, thoughts etc.

Secondly observe your thoughts, truly stay with them. Observing what you think, and how your thoughts affect you. This might be a tricky one; it's like being a second awareness in your head - "seeing" what you think.

Monitor your thoughts, and your emotional state with it. Get to know your feelings, and learn to recognize when you are under the control of a certain emotion.

If you want to break a negative emotion coming on, do something unexpected, like clap your hands, spin around, jump, slap yourself - anything - to break your mind starting to run it's normal program, with the undesired emotion.

Just going for a walk or a light run will help your body chemistry, and turn around a sour mood. Or doing two of the following : Change your posture to a good one, put a smile on your face(even if it's a fake one), focus your thoughts on the positive, control and slow your breathing - taking deep slow breaths through your nose.


In Conclusion.

To master your emotions practice to observe your thoughts - learn staying aware of what you think

- and how you think about it.

As this sets you in the direction of your emotion.

A smile, a good posture and calm breathing will also put your mind in the right direction.

The better you get on observing yourself the easier it gets to halt and turn negative emotions once they start. You will also find that you will also experience less "negative" emotions.


Just for the record.

I don't really think there are such a thing as "Good" or "Bad". As, "it's all good" - however there are emotions that benefit your life and there are emotions that just help to give nuance to "the life experience". It is important to feel all emotions, but equally important to be in charge of your emotions so that you are the one who act, and not the emotion.

I mean, is it you or your emotions who buy/eat/choose/do/want: "the new I-pod", "the red one", "just a small chocolate", "a coke", "a line of coke", "a cigarette", "the chips", "a newer version", "delivered pizza", "ohhh the shiny one" and "whatever else they are advertising nowadays" or "whatever else you use to numb your emotions"

Good reading on the subject are among many others:
Paul Ekman - Emotions Revealed
and
Daniel Goleman - Emotional Intelligence

Much Love

Do you have a problem?

Interesting - The Mind and the Universe

It is key to know and understand your mind. How your reality is created and how your actions and reactions work, how you defend your own unconscious behaviour and how your belief system locks you inside a box.

This film is great, it is actually two films; the first one is about your mind and the second about quantum physics..
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I am posting it mainly for the first film, however the second is interesting too.


oh, and thanks to Sarah for showing this to me.

Much Love

Inspiration - Osho

Last  night P and I went to a `Tao temple` where we listened to a very good talk on

intention - character - destiny

it was delivered by a Taiwanese who has lived in Brazil for 10 years. There was some bowing involved before the talk started and we couldn't sit next to each-other, as men and women sat on either side, men to the right and women to the left, the bowing was also taking place separate, men first then women. I always find these sorts of habits funny and a bit strained, but you know as they say, while in Rome.

in short:

what you think, feel, talk and focus on in the now becomes your character, and your character creates your life.

Nothing he said was new to either of us. But it was the first time I have heard a Tao Buddhist speak on the topic, and it was very nice.  You cant really get enough of good reminders, so it was welcomed.

However the real reason we were there was to show a green smoothie recipe on a vegetarian cooking class held after the aforementioned presentation.

We did a very small introduction and showed a simple green smoothie and spoke about it. People showed allot of interest and  and wanted to know more. It was great fun ad-libbing in Portuguese in front of a crowd, I got rather pleased with my language skills.

anyhow, here is a clip:.

Osho is great, here he is talking about provocation, humour, contradictions, attachment and freedom.

Inspiration - Love

Hello,

I have internet back in the house, which should hopefully see me blogging a bit more frequently.

Thank you Poliana for showing me this video, very beautiful!



A great message!

much love

lets see where I take it this time!

This blog is built around the Buddhist saying:
`there is no road to happiness, happiness is the road´

Which is the way I live my life, and the way I strive to live my life.

There is no end destination, the end destination is always where you are...

The now is your only time, but the now doesn´t exist. Just like time doesn´t exist.
Time is man made, we have created it to get power over nature, and also over ourselves. It is a creation of and for society

There is a constant flow, and there is a movement of the earth and the moon, (and to a larger degree of the sun and the galaxy), so I am not disputing that there is a time continuum, or as I like to see it, a never ending change.

However there is no calendar, showing the time for the earth, or hours and seconds, these are all made up equations to try to capture a moment: past, future or present. Time is created to try to freeze moments, but moments can´t be frozen, they can only change... And as you change, the moments change, the past, which doesn´t exist (any-more) can be changed, depending on how we look upon the past in the present...

witness reports from crime scenes are good examples. There are usually as many different realities of the same ´past´event as there are witnesses. This is because the past event no longer exist, only a person in the present looking back at the past.

thoughts from my garden

I saw the film Network last night, it is from 1976, and hits a very rusty nail on the head. "There are no nations there is no democracy, there is only business, the world is a business."

The thought of countries is a dying concept, there are only multinational corporations, and they run us through governments, UN, WTO, IMF, etc. still pulling a cloak in front of eyes, making us believe that the concept of nations is still valid... well the blurring of the edges is strong when EU has taken the sovereignty from its member nations, and WTO punishes any nation who do not play it's game of Free Open Markets... private banking giants (IMF) are receiving money from nations to lend out to other nations, with clauses and rules which takes the freedom even further from the nation than it was before... We have seen Greece, we have seen Iceland, we can see what is happening in the USA, and we will soon be able to see what will happen to the UK, Spain, Portugal and Italy.

Then there is the impending war against Iran, the media networks are building it up and creating the groundwork for an attack... reports about people getting death sentences executed by stoning, and reports of civil unrest and nuclear weapons... all this so that we the people will not be too upset when Israel or USA throws the first stone....

death penalty in USA is by injection or electric chair, in Japan by hanging...

I don't see much difference from frying internally or getting battered by stones, so lets liberate USA, the people in the USA are ruled by a puppet government, they are an aggressor all around the world, they do have a nuclear bomb (and has used it in the past) they put their citizens in jail for very small minor offences in the name of profit. That's right jails are big business in the states and excellent access to free labour (slave trade), plus the tax payers pay for the whole thing.

Larger parts of the US prison population are in Jail due to minor Marijuana offences...

Marijuana, which is a proven medicine, one of the most effective pain killers on the market. The medicine companies would get big dents in their profit margin if people started making and using hemp oil as an anointment(said to heal skin cancer among many other ailments), or the leafs and flowers as a medicine...

Then we have Hemp, the answer to most of our environmental problems at this time in history: Strong Plastic, good fuel, high nutritional value, one of the strongest fibres known to man, stronger than wood. Now lets put this in to context for you, the brainwashed media and culture population.

Hemp if brought in as a industrial crop on full scale (in all nations) would wipe out the paper forest industry, the oil industry (yes, we would not need fossil fuels), in big parts the mining industry, iron ore, aluminium etc...
It would kill the cotton industry (whom uses 50% of all pesticides used in agriculture). The soya bean would also in big parts be made void if Hemp came in as a player, as would ethanol made from cane sugar... then we have the seeds, which would be able to feed the whole world, and would make very good animal feed (granted I would love to see a world without captured slave animals purely used for our consumption, particularly since the consumption of said meat is one of the main reasons to the poor health of the meat eating nations (cancer, heart decease etc.) and the main reason for our energy consumption, water consumption and in big parts pollutions.

One acre of Hemp is equivalent to one acre of grown forest when it comes to productivity, but you can replant it yearly ( a forest will take anything from 7 years +).

But as you can see Hemp (which doesn't have THC, which means you can't get high from it or use it as a "drug") would put many, very big industries on loose ground.

What you focus on gets amplified. so I don't focus on the above, but I do know about it, because I hold knowledge in high regard. I focus on love, gratitude, how amazing everyday is (they are you know), I focus on having the best time ever, all the time. I focus on my personal growth, I focus on laughter, harmony and beauty! I focus on my increased wealth, on my amazing health and all lives opportunities, which seems to be standing in a big cue just waiting for you to grab one or all of them.

I focus on my posture, I focus on my breathing, I focus on my thoughts, I focus on being concious... I focus on the truth... my truth is very different from the truth you are told by the media corporations, my truth is a truth that you don't get served up on the six o'clock news or in the morning news papers. My truth you can find in books, films and on the internet...

My truth is written between the lines, and my truth can be verified if you choose to know... and the lies of TV news and news papers can also be verified, all you need is a little will to wake up from the matrix, and start educating yourself.

It is a very liberating process... because you take back your freedom, the freedom of your thoughts, the freedom of your beliefs.

and when you start learning, you might get upset, you might get scared, you might be sad, you might not understand it... but you are learning.

Much love to you all!

rain in paradise!

and what glorious rain it is!

cools things down, and gives you a nice break from the heat.

also gives me some time to upload a few things I want to share with you.



now that's what I'm talking about!

in peace!

5% vs 95%

so who runs your world?

are you in control of what is happening in your life.

who do you feel is in charge?

• the government
• your boss
• your mum
• your partner
• your friends
• the media
• God

You might think all or none of the above runs your life. in any case the one thing to realise is that you are in charge. you are the boss of your body and your mind.

That's all well and fine then, you are in charge.

but how do you control yourself and where did it come from!



much love

We are the thieves

We are the thieves of our freedom.
We are the thieves of our life.
We are the thieves of our health.
We are the thieves of our good fortune
Through our choices we choose to have or not to to have.
Through our beliefs we choose to receive or reject.
Through our actions we create our life
Through consciousness we live

no one can steal your life away - but you.

Start question everything.

Been a bit docile of late when it comes to the writing of my blog....

I have however spent allot of time reading, doing research and moving to a new country, so I haven´t been inactive. Just tied up in what I perceive to be my reality.

Everything you learnt in school, university from press and TV, is not your knowledge, it is knowledge past down to you from someone else, this means that everything you know, or hold to be true, is not your knowledge but it is coming from somewhere.... how do you know you are not a part of a big lie?

How can you know that what you hold to be true is true?

Question everything!

What truly is truth, is a great question all by itself.

and here is my answer to the above question:

I would say, that truth is what you hold to be reality, and what your reality is for you will be your truth..... so with that logic, everything and nothing is true...

In religion and in politics, truth itself is usually the first casualty.

good questions to ask yourself:

What does someone (organizations, governments, business, etc) gain on me believing in X or trusting that Y is real.

Who is making money on X and Y.

Where does the information/knowledge for X and Y come from. where was it created, where can you read/see/hear about it.

Are there any opposing information/knowledge for X and Y.

When did X and Y become "truth".

Why would someone want me to think X and Y is true.

Does believing that X and Y is true limit me?

There is a war on Love and freedom - information is the greatest weapon you have to defend yourself against it. make your truth one that is helpful for life, freedom and love.

Anyway, it is time to speak up!!!



If you see the lies around you, it is not you who is mad, it's your surrounding.

Apathy is the greatest threat to the truth, for our freedom and for love.

it's time to wake up and not only smell the flowers, but also see the thorns.

The revolution is now, the revolution is love!

Music and Now Revolution

Because that's what friends do isn't it.

the world on higher downs
http://www.myspace.com/theworldonhigherdowns

Turn your speakers up and listen, rather nice I think.

keep believing, and keep preparing for the revolution. it will not be televised, and it will not be reported on by anyone but you. The revolution is already here, so wake up, start seeing the present, give thanks to the moment, you don't have to like what you see, but you have to see it for what it is, reality, and reality in itself is beautiful. Now is the only moment that matters, if you are not present Now, it will have past, so don't spend the Now thinking about the past or the what ifs of the future. think of the now, act on the now, and do the best of the now, now. Every thing you think of and do becomes your future, what you do now, will have an impact on your future, and the now is constantly changing as is the past and future. impact your future by being in the now with positive thoughts and positive actions, now creates your future, what you are thinking right now will create how you will respond, look or think about something in the future, or in the new now. try to catch your negative actions and thoughts when they come in the now. stop yourself when you are thinking of the what ifs from the past, think of the now. Think of the wonder that you are creating every moment of every second: your life. a truly glorious gift, make the most of it, and remember that you, your mind, your body and your spirit is free, and belongs to no man, woman, organization or government. you are born free, and it is your right to remain free. look around you and see what encroaches on your personal freedom and question it. you are free, and now is the moment to be free.

For the Revolution!

For the Now!

For Love

Because you are worth it!

Each and every one of us have the potential to be the best we can and each of us can do the best we can to release that potential.

We all come from different places and mindsets but that doesn't stop the fact that we can always improve, to release more of the greatness which is you.

Thousands of geniuses live and die undiscovered - either by themselves or by others.
Mark Twain

It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not;

Don't set limits for your thoughts and dreams as you will never reach further than your beliefs. Negative thoughts will bring you negative results, and negative results will only give you confirmation that you were right, which is the only satisfaction you can reap from it.

If you doubt yourself, then indeed you stand on shaky ground.
Henrik Ibsen

Don't limit your life by limiting beliefs about yourself, you are a wonderful human being and you can manage anything you put your heart and mind to.

Most people never realize their own magnificence - and sadly the world is a darker place for it. What we see around us today is a society built on self-doubt, guilt, fear, confusion and self-hatred, to release you from thoughts that put blame on yourself, of any kind, is to invite life.

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt

When you look at life without any of the negative feelings and insecurities you hold towards yourself and your circumstances you will start to enjoy every moment of it!

To be truly present is the greatest gift of all, and perhaps also the hardest. I assume this is why most people prefer hard presents - They are a metaphor for living in the NOW.

Don't let the past steal your present.
Cherralea Morgen

Every morning, seek out a mirror of your own choosing and look yourself in they eyes and say: "I am a beautiful, magnificent human being, and I am grateful for everything life brings me!"

Smile to yourself, take a deep breath and say it again.

"I am a beautiful, magnificent human being, and I am grateful for everything life brings me!"

keep repeating it as many times you feel like, you truly can't say it enough.

"A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval"

Mark Twain

Through out the day, if you are having any negative thoughts, encounters or moments, which will set your mood in the wrong direction, think back to the morning chat you had with yourself. That's right, you, talking to yourself in the mirror. Remember that you are a beautiful, magnificent human being and what ever just happened was a gift from life, and guess what, you are grateful for it.

Take a deep breath, and slowly breath out, and thank yourself for being mindful enough to remind yourself of your magnificence.

All of us have wonders hidden in our breasts; only needing circumstances to evoke them. Charles Dickens

The road I am talking about so much (www.whatistheroad.blogspot.com) is happiness and joy, The reason it is a road is because life's a journey, not a destination, so don't try to get to a happier or better place, it doesn't exist anywhere, it exists everywhere at all times.

You are living it right now, embrace it!

That's it folks, keep on truckin!

Don't reinvent the wheel; don't change the wheel, just roll with it.

I feel it's about time

I haven't written in a while which mainly is due to me being busy with other worldly things. like working, eating, getting from point A to point B, sleeping, engaging in the odd social encounters, spending time with my beautiful wife to be, and as always, reading and educating myself.

I have lately had many blog-thoughts and I have so many things I want to share with you, but it has created an overload in the system, so I don't know what to write about first... so I thought a "subject-less" blog-entry without any "prep" or forethought is the only way to go.

Well it isn't the only way to go, but it is the rout I just now have decided to go down (up, along, sideways - well, we'll see what direction it takes).

So I changed the URL for my blog, to www.whatistheroad.blogspot.com instead of the old and in many peoples minds Anti and Agressive libertarian anarchist. I did/do kind of agree with you and just the name itself most likely detered many people from reading it in the first place.

it wasn't my first choice, but all the good names were taken, or so I thought until I found the new one. but let me explain the reason for my previous name: libertariananarchist

lets break it up: libertarian

1. One who advocates maximizing individual rights and minimizing the role of the state.

2. One who believes in free will.

Noun

a person who believes in freedom of thought and action

Adjective

believing in freedom of thought and action

I can justly say that I am, and believe strongly in all of the above:
- we are all free people with free will - if we exercise said will - sadly majority of people let the box (TV), corporate media and peer groups be our will.

next word then: anarchist
An advocate of or a participant in anarchism.

1. a person who advocates anarchism- to a certain degree, yes I do.

2. a person who causes disorder or upheaval - don't we all at times? or if not, we should all do so at times, if not just to keep ourselves and the "powers to be" on our/their toes.

to clarify: anarchism

1. The theory or doctrine that all forms of government are oppressive and undesirable and should be abolished. - governments are there to govern, a free person does not need to be governed, that is all I have to say about it.

2. Active resistance and terrorism against the state, as used by some anarchists. - this is not what I mean and I do not condone it, however, if said "state" is using terror towards its citizens it might be the only solution, but I would prefer to call it revolution!

3. Rejection of all forms of coercive control and authority - is your parents authority then don't, but if the authority is, say, a policeman trying to stop you going to a peacful protest, then yes!

Noun

a doctrine advocating the abolition of government and its replacement by a social system based on voluntary cooperation - now doesn't that sound nice!

or, anarchism:
1. a political theory advocating the elimination of governments and governmental restraint and the substitution of voluntary cooperation among individuals. - See this is what I mean it is for cooperation and against restraints. this is the tree I am barking up, and who is the cat sitting in the tree you ask.
2. the methods and practices of anarchists - what ever that is? all I know is that media is painting it out to be a truly bad and violent, hence I decided I have to change the name as majority of people think of negative things when they hear the word anarchist.

so the new name then?

What is the road - well come with me on my blog journey and I shall show you!

- the road is happiness but the landscape you see from this road is not always a happy and a pretty one, but if you stay on the road, you will not let the landscape bring you down, just empower you...